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5-Stages of Grief

To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die.
Thomas Campbell

Death is merely the gateway
into the arms of the Lord.
Unknown

The five stages of grief are:

1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", looking for your loved one in familiar places, setting the table for the person or even wondering if a mistake was made and your loved one has not passed.

2-Anger-"why me?", feelings of anger at the deceased, blaming them for "leaving", angry at oneself for not saying "good things" the last time you parted ways, are just a few examples of common anger emotions.

3-Bargaining-attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss. Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back. This is especially common once a loved one's earthly remains may have been located and an ID is pending.

4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal.

5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Many use the word "closure" and quiet honestly when may never find "closure", but you can find acceptance. Many may find their lives will have changed towards the better following a loss and this could be that once the pain of losing someone occurs one may find solace or comfort in religion or more bonding with their present faith. Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, is part of the healing process. Because one is healed does not mean one will ever forget, nor should they. Your loved one wants you to live the rest of your life as joyful as possible. Your goals will one day turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of your loved one. Talk to them in prayer, or just talk to them if it brings you comfort. Many people have asked for signs that their loved one is safe. Be brave and keep faith that one day you will all meet again.

REMEMBER ME

Remember me with smiles not tears,
For all the joy through all the years,
Don't dwell on thoughts that cause you pain,
We'll see each other once again,
I am at peace, try to believe,
It was my time, I had to leave,
But "what a view" I have from here,
I see your face,
I feel you near,
I follow you throughout the day,
You're not alone along the way,
And when God calls you, you will be,
Right by my side,
right here with me.
-Author Unknown

Our Missing in 2010 Who've Passed

Life Must Go On

Grieve for me, for I would grieve for you.

Then brush away the sorrow and the tears

Life is not over, but begins anew,

With courage you must greet the coming years.

To live forever in the past is wrong;

It can only cause you misery and pain.

Dwell not on memories overlong,

With others you must share and care again.

Reach out and comfort those who comfort you;

Recall the years, but only for a while.

Nurse not your loneliness; but live again.

Forget not. Remember with a smile.

-Navaho Prayer

Our Missing from 2009 Who've Passed

Assisting Law Enforcement and Families Of Missing Loved Ones